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Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday Cat No.C3
About pathways

Pathways, steps and options

As you scroll down a pathway page, you will see that each pathway is made up of a number of linked steps designed to help you progress in your learning about the topic, with several options for learning activities at each step. Some options will be more suited to adults working alone, some to children or young people, and some for all ages together.

It is up to you whether you follow the steps or use the materials as you feel led, and you can always choose to do more than one learning activity from a particular step.

When you click on an option from the list it will expand and show you all the resources that are part of that option or needed for that session. Click again on the option title to close it.

There are four main types of resources:

  • text based resources: click 'view' to preview these in the 'BFT viewer' (which will open in a new tab) or 'download' them as pdfs. If you are using a screen reader you will need to download any pdf file and then open it to read it.
  • links to material on other websites: clicking 'view' will usually take you direct to that online material (opening in a new tab) but occasionally you will come to a BFT information page which has further instructions, for example 'Scroll down to the bottom of the page and click 'Cosmic Walk'.'
  • video resources: clicking 'view' will either take you to an embedded video player within Being Friends Together (which you can enlarge to full screen) or to the relevant page on another website where you will need to click on the video title, depending what kind of website is hosting the video.
  • audio resources: click 'download' to download the mp3 file to your computer.

Catalogue numbers

Each pathway, option and individual resource in Being Friends Together has its own unique catalogue number, displayed in the top right corner of the screen (and included in option titles). A quick way to find something that you have used before or following a recommendation from a friend is to search for it using its catalogue number: click on 'Catalogue Number Search' at the very top of the screen on any page of Being Friends Together, then type the catalogue number for the pathway, option or individual resource that you are looking for into the search box.

 
'Seek to know one another in the things which are eternal' ('Advices and queries' 18). Both eternal and everyday approaches feature throughout this pathway; the combination of them can enrich your community and help you to build a culture of welcome and tender sympathy in your meeting.
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Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Introduction
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An introduction to the 'Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday' pathway

Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Step 1: Getting to know each other

How can we ‘enter with tender sympathy into the joys and sorrows of each other’s lives, ready to give help and to receive it’ (Advices & queries 18) if we do not know each other well? This step invites you to get to know each other a bit better and, hopefully, to enjoy yourselves in the process!

Choose one (or more if you like) of the following options for step one of your Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal…and Everyday pathway – there are options to suit different preferences, approaches and age groups.

Talk to one another about your own life stories, sharing something of what is best about being you and what is most important to you in life. Then have a go at making a journal and writing or drawing your story in it.

 Option 1 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 43 and its resourcesView-

Plan and hold a shared meal with community as its theme. This could be planned by the young people in your meeting. You might like to combine the meal with one or two simple activities that celebrate and strengthen community.

 Option 3 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' youth work edition Issue 7View-
 T-shirt activityViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' special issue ‘Connecting as a Community’View-
 'Journeys in the Spirit' special issue ‘Connecting as a Community’ resourcesView-

Listen to, read or watch something that focuses on sharing what you are passionate about then discuss your own responses and understanding.

 Option 4 facilitator notesViewDownload
 Discussion session guidanceView-
 ‘Community and Minute 36’ blog postView-

Put together a scrap book telling the story of your meeting and the people in it. You could include photos, writing, pictures, and short pieces by individual Friends.

 Option 5 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' youth work edition Issue 15 and its resourcesView-

For an active learning approach to getting to know each other, check out this option.

 Active learning option facilitator notesViewDownload
 Prayer partners guidanceView-
 'Friendly Eights' guidanceView-

For an external course or event on getting to know each other, check out this option.

 Woodbrooke's websiteView-
Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Step 2: Being Quaker - what does it mean for us?

This step explores our Quaker identity. What does being Quaker mean for us as individuals and as a community? Any of the options for this step could be particularly helpful as ways of supporting conversation between those new to Quakers and more experienced Friends in your meeting.

Choose one (or more if you like) of the following options for step two of your Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal…and Everyday pathway – there are options to suit different preferences, approaches and age groups.

Talk to one another about why you are a Quaker or why you like Quakers, then ask others in meeting for their responses to these questions too – you could do this in all age worship. You might like to make a display of everyone’s responses.

 Option 1 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 87 and its resourcesView-
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 9View-
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 9 resourcesView-

Work together to agree what being Quaker means to you as a group, using positively framed statements such as ‘Quakers believe there is that of God in everyone’.

 Option 3 facilitator notesViewDownload
 HMP 'What being Quaker means to us' sessionViewDownload

Reflect together on what you consider to be the core values of Quakerism both historically and today, consider how your meeting expresses those values, then share with others how you meet the personal challenge of living out your Quaker values.

 Option 4 facilitator notesViewDownload
 CCCC 'Quaker values' sessionViewDownload

Use simple interactive methods to explore what it means to be a Quaker, including looking at Quaker priorities, what is challenging about Quakerism, Quaker values and purpose, membership and belonging, and your own personal experience.

 Option 5 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Sharing-our-journeys' Quakerism activitiesViewDownload
 Template for Quaker treasure boxViewDownload

Create your own session on the subject of being Quaker, suitable for anyone over the age of 12. Select activities from Journeys in the Spirit youth work edition Issue 22 on this theme and follow the guidance given.

 Option 6 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' youth work edition Issue 22 and its resourcesView-

For an external course or event on being Quaker, check out this option.

 Woodbrooke’s websiteView-
Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Step 3: Inreach and outreach

How do we welcome strangers to our meeting and share our Quakerism with others? This step is about inreach and outreach, about developing a confident Quaker voice. As with step two, any of these options could also be particularly helpful as ways of supporting conversation between those new to Quakers and more experienced Friends in your meeting.

Choose one (or more if you like) of the following options for step three of your Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal…and Everyday pathway – there are options to suit different preferences, approaches and age groups.

Create your own session on the theme of talking about being Quaker, suitable for anyone over the age of five. Select activities from Journeys in the Spirit children’s work edition Issue 74 on this theme and follow the guidance given.

 Option 1 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 74 and its resourcesView-

Take part in simple interactive exercises developed by the Quaker Quest Network to help Friends practise speaking with a confident Quaker voice, including the double circles exercise and the squares exercise.

 Option 3 facilitator notesViewDownload
 Quaker Quest exercisesViewDownload

Listen to input on a Quaker-related theme of your choice, engage in discussion and finish with half an hour of worship. This session could be useful practice for a future outreach event in your meeting.

 Option 4 facilitator notesViewDownload
 Quaker Quest style session guidanceView-
 A list of books in the 'Twelve Quakers and…’ seriesView-

Use simple interactive methods to explore how you would respond to people asking you to explain aspects of Quakerism. Take it in turns to be an enquirer, a Quaker and a support person, then reflect together on the experience.

 Option 5 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Living as a Quaker' session about explaining QuakerismView-
 Activity resource for 'Living as a Quaker' sessionView-

Use a 'chatroom' activity from Journeys in the Spirit special issue ‘Connecting as a Community’ to explore together your understanding of outreach and what it means to be a Quaker in the world.

 Option 6 facilitator notesViewDownload
 Chat room activity guidanceView-
 Topic sheets for the chat room activityView-

For an external course or event on inreach and outreach, check out this option.

 Woodbrooke’s websiteView-
Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Step 4: Different expressions of Quaker community

How do we organise our meeting community and get together with other Quakers in new or different ways? This step is about exploring those different expressions of Quaker community.

Choose one (or more if you like) of the following options for step four of your Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal…and Everyday pathway – there are options to suit different preferences, approaches and age groups.

Create your own session on the theme of being part of Quaker community at a significant Quaker gathering, suitable for anyone over the age of five. Select activities from Journeys in the Spirit children’s work edition Issue 88 on this theme and follow the guidance given.

 Option 1 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 88 and its resourcesView-
This ‘Renewing our Vision’ session invites you to reflect on how your meeting is faring and how you would like it to be. It then offers an opportunity to consider practical steps you might take to move forward in your vision.
 Option 2 facilitator notesViewDownload
 CCCC 'Renewing our vision' sessionViewDownload

This session offers a framework for debriefing after a significant Quaker event such as yearly meeting or a Quaker conference. Consider together what was inspiring or challenging and how you would like to disseminate ideas or take actions as a result.

 Option 3 facilitator notesViewDownload
 CCCC 'Debriefing after a gathering' sessionViewDownload

Listen to input about new or different ways of experiencing Quaker community, engage in discussion and finish with half an hour of worship.

 Option 4 facilitator notesViewDownload
 Quaker Quest style session guidanceView-

You could do one or more of three linked sessions from the Quaker Life resource New expressions of Quaker community, exploring new ways of being a Quaker community and seeking radical or fresh ways of engaging with local communities outside the meeting house door.

 Option 5 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'New expressions' resourceViewDownload

Make a group collage together to explore the kind of Quaker community you would ideally like to be part of. Reflect together on the experience of collaborative creativity, and finish by considering what your collage tells you about the possibilities for your Quaker community.

 Option 6 facilitator notesViewDownload
 GL ‘Our communities - imagining how it could be’ sessionViewDownload

For an active learning approach to exploring different expressions of Quaker community, check out this option.

 Active learning option facilitator notesViewDownload
 Living Witness’s 'Be the change' resourceView-

For an external course or event exploring different expressions of Quaker community, check out this option.

 Woodbrooke’s websiteView-
Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Step 5: Our ministry in the wider community

This step explores how the way you relate to the wider community speaks of your deepest values and Quaker faith, from the way you use your meeting house (or any other place that you meet) to your involvement with local people and projects.

Choose one (or more if you like) of the following options for step five of your Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal…and Everyday pathway – there are options to suit different preferences, approaches and age groups.

Create your own session on the theme of belonging and feeling at home, suitable for anyone over the age of five. Select activities from Journeys in the Spirit children’s work edition Issue 25 on this theme and follow the guidance given.

 Option 1 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 25View-
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 25 resourcesView-

Make ‘gift squares’ as a creative response activity on the theme of ‘what is special about our local community/meeting place’. Then reflect together on what you have created and what it tells you about the ministry of your meeting place.

 Option 2 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Gift squares' activityViewDownload

You could do one or both of these linked Good Lives sessions:

4a Mapping our own communities: Spend time together mapping your local community, noting what it is like, what facilities it has, what you value about it and what it lacks.

4b Concerns about our communities: Share any concerns for your community. Consider them in the context of the national picture and how they are specifically Quaker concerns. Then consider what you need from your local community and what good news there is locally.

You could add an opportunity at the end of either session to name some of your dreams, visions or hopes for your local community.

 Option 4 facilitator notesViewDownload
 GL ‘Mapping our own communities’ sessionViewDownload
 GL ‘Concerns about our communities’ sessionViewDownload
Build up a picture together of what is going on locally on issues that concern Friends, then consider how you can support and uphold the initiatives and work of others.
 Option 5 facilitator notesViewDownload
 CCCC 'Celebrating, praying & praising' sessionViewDownload

Using activities from Journeys in the Spirit youth work edition Issue 17, explore together what makes a space feel safe for you, then think about creating a Quaker space, including making changes to your meeting place so that you feel that you belong there more as a group.

 Option 6 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' youth work edition Issue 17 and its resourcesView-

The aim is for your meeting to work together on a shared project that will enable you to develop your ministry in the local community. This could involve organising something and inviting people from the community, or reaching out and offering service or taking action in your local community. You could include a shared meal or worship in this planning session too.

 Option 7 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' special issue ‘Connecting as a Community’View-
 Video about a bike clinic at a Scottish churchView-

For an active learning approach to our ministry in the wider community, check out this option.

 Active learning option facilitator notesViewDownload
 Streetbank websiteView-

For an external course or event on our ministry in the wider community, check out this option.

 Woodbrooke’s websiteView-
Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Step 6: Knowing each other in the things that are eternal...and everyday

Our Quaker tradition teaches us that the spiritual aspect of life is entirely bound up in the everyday, and that the whole of our life can be sacramental, or open to divine encounter. This step is about reaching out to one another within our meeting, seeking to know one another in the things that are eternal, and in the process, everyday things too. It is an opportunity to share with one another something of your own spiritual stories or journeys.

Choose one (or more if you like) of the following options for step six of your Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal…and Everyday pathway – there are options to suit different preferences, approaches and age groups.

You might also like to consider doing any of the options from Step 1: ‘Getting to Know You’ which you have not already done as a group.

Talk to one another about your own Quaker story, how you first came to Quaker meeting and what has happened since, then use creative methods to make a picture or map of your story.

 Option 1 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 26View-
 'Journeys in the Spirit' children’s work edition Issue 26 resourcesView-

In response to reflective questions, share with others what brought you to Quakers and what keeps you here.

 Option 2 facilitator notesViewDownload
 HMP 'Spiritual journeys' sessionViewDownload

Use the Being Quaker, Doing Quaker resource as a guide for running a session about what your faith means to you. One person speaks for a short time to your group, having prepared in advance their response to a given question, then everyone in the group responds to the same question from their own experience.

 Option 3 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Being Quaker, Doing Quaker' learning resourceView-

Take part in a Kindlers’ ‘laboratory of the Spirit’ on a theme of your choosing. Share something of your experience on the chosen theme, then take part in a double circles exercise. Finish with some experimental worship.

 Option 4 facilitator notesViewDownload
 Kindlers' worship workshop guidelinesViewDownload

Participate in a spiritual friendship group session on a theme of your choice. Choose one of the group activity processes given in the guidance and finish with worship.

 Option 5 facilitator notesViewDownload
 Spiritual friendship group guidanceViewDownload

Use simple interactive methods from Sharing our Journeys to reflect together on aspects of your spiritual life and journey. Then, using activities from Journeys in the Spirit youth work edition Issue 15, share your personal soundtracks or make ‘vox pop’ films together as ways of getting to know one another more deeply.

 Option 6 facilitator notesViewDownload
 'Sharing-our-journeys' activitiesViewDownload
 Template for boxViewDownload
 'Journeys in the Spirit' youth work edition Issue 15View-

For an active learning approach to knowing each other in the things that are eternal...and everyday, check out this option.

 Active learning option facilitator notesViewDownload
 Spiritual friendship group guidanceViewDownload
 'Desert Island Discs’ on the BBC websiteView-

For an external course or event on knowing each other in the things that are eternal...and everyday, check out this option.

 Woodbrooke’s websiteView-
Knowing Each Other in the Things that are Eternal...and Everyday
Further exploration

More resources and activities on knowing each other in the things that are eternal...and everyday.